After a While Poem

This poem is in a book I am currently reading I found it very relevant to my current situation
A beautiful poem by Veronica Shoffstall written in 1971, at a time when so much was changing for women, but its words are as relevant today. This writer feels strong, self assured and contented.

After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t always mean security
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises
And you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a women, not the grief of a child
And you learn to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring your flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
that you really are strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn and you learn
With every goodbye you learn……